Your Natural Hair & Dating A Black Man

I have been natural since I was 14, but I have been wearing my own hair out for the last 3 years.  The reason why I chose not to wear out my natural hair was because I felt unsecure, unattractive, and defintely not accepted.  All of the women around me had long wind blowing straight or curly weaves.  At the time my afro was stiff...and wouldn't budge if a hurricane wind blew.  I received several dates with my weave and was often afraid to reveal that my "real hair" was thick, kinky, and healthy.  when I decided to really become a natural hair stylist and promote natural hair my client asked me, "Why don't you wear your hair all the time?".   I realized that I was encouraging all of these women to do a "big chop" and to wear their hair, but I wasn't listening or even considering my own advice.  Such a hypocrite I was, but I was    hyporcitical based on my insecurities.  So, I decided to wear my hair....and I've been wearing it ever since.  When I do get a protective style I often choose a style that resembles my own hair texture.  When I started wearing my hair I had a few men asked me was I locking it or was I becoming afrocentric.  I felt as if they viewed me differently because I was choosing to wear my hair the way the Creator intended me to.  I found many guys liking that I opted to be myself instead of another "Nikki Minaj" wannabee.  So, the basics of this blog is  not force you to wear your hair, but when you do choose to wear your own beautiful coils, curls, and even kinks to know it is not the hair that makes you beautiful or confident.  It is what is already within you that provides that.